Investing in Child Care: Overcoming the challenges faced by working parents?
Parenting is an art and it is difficult task with the modern ages and more exposure of the kids. In earlier days father go for work and mother stay at home, nowadays it has changed and both are going for work. Parents need to bring balance between work and parenting…
As a parent, remember that your goal is to raise responsible children, helping them to someday live independent lives. Being a super parent, running after your children, only inspires them to depend on you to do things they are capable of doing themselves.
With more educational opportunities for both men and women, both the father and mother work in average Indian family. Due to this, interactions within the home reduce, parents and children are more tired to work together and the home becomes a space were hurried conversations, chores meals and routines are highlights of the day.
The obvious advantage when both parents work, is financial well being, independence and the benefits of two incomes. It helps parents create an identity for them.
However on the negative side are several factors which need to be carefully examined and handled to make the home environment supportive and healthy for the child. Children miss out lot because of the lack of play, communication, stimulation and attention and the warmth.
Some of the Tips for working parents
- Realize that both parents need to put in qualitative and consistent work into parenting. Never give up your responsibility to your spouse. What you can do for your child no one else can.
- Plan well with your spouse and take turns with responsibilities. Plan your tie at home with the children. For example, your spouse can spend time with the children one evening, you could handle the chores and vice versa.
- Make it a point to have one meal together as a family and at this time switch off the television and the phone (if you can).
- If you choose to have weekend outings, set a clear plan and budget for it along with your child. This plan tells your child that it is an effort to spend time together. Be firm even if it takes a few weeks for your child to understand that you will not give in to tantrums and unrealistic demands. Do not let your child threaten or control you by inducing guilt.
- Play simple games with your children. Each week can be a different game for a different skill. Many games we played as children are forgotten because we have not made time to teach them to our children. When you play with your child you reinforce a sense of security and trust in your child while giving them an opportunity to develop through play. For example, you could play a board game one week, a vocabulary game once and so on. This way you will also have an idea of what your child is good at and create more opportunities in those areas.
- Monitor the day care centre and hobby centre for child friendly practices. Take your child?s feedback about safety as well. Very often we choose convenience over other factors. Your child?s safety and well being are most important.
- As much as you can do not bring work home to complete. Children need to know that you care enough to take care of them after work hours. This holds good for phone calls as well. When you spend time with your child minimize the usage of the phone and give your child the feel that he/she is most important.
- Do not allow your child to sweep things under the carpet, because you are stresses or tired or busy. Children need your support in many ways and when something significant happens in their day, you must be around to listen. The reason we need to be around is to identify issues in school or outside the home where they may need our help or intervention.